Tuesday, January 29, 2013
Friday, June 17, 2011
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Saturday, January 29, 2011
I have to get this art book finished
Get the poetry book out
Wrench my charity money back from the grubby hands of these horrible people
Paperwork completed
Get a new job
When I get the new job, I'll have time to:
Date everybody
Play drums in a band with Cuddles
Write THE book about Kid Jail
Hang out more at the Chicago Freedom School and 826CHI
Exercise
And boom! it's winter, I just got it. That joke wasn't funny anymore last month and I just now got it. I hate all my thick clothes and my boots that keep me warm and dry. I only want to eat beans and pizza and lay on my couch complaining that I'm on my couch. Here is the most apt metaphor of where I'm at, in my life, right now, but it involves some set-up:
I decided to drive a 1998 Jeep Cherokee to Unicorn School in early January, an opportunity to see friends with babies in Pittsburgh PA and Auburn NY, places I, to be honest, would not be visiting otherwise. From one angle this was the perfect plan, and it was the heart angle, so that's what I did. Babies and friends and new cities and not work are all things my heart likes.
From the brain angle, my Evil Bosses all but told me I would be fired if I tried it; I haven't driven for more than an hour since 2001; I am terrified, terrified, petrified of winter driving; I would be driving through America's Snow Belt in early January; and as soon as I got in the ride, the stereo turned out to be held together with Elmer's glue and the rear view mirror fell off.
Still staring at the mirror in my hand, marvelling at my own strength, a possible new job called. Of late I have been receiving too many messages from the Universe, and that's the truth. 'But what does it mean?' I yell to the Universe, messages in both hands. Which is good? What is happening?
I was sad driving through Toledo because with my mom lost to mental illnesses and my Dad moving to Cali, my connection to Toledo will be reduced to the overly-orange mental pictures of a not-that-great childhood. I waved. Outside of Cleveland I hit the shit and it was 25 mph in zero visibility, cars strung together in a necklace of terror. This is moment-to-moment living, for me--I can't see, and I'm scared, and I want to stop the car and just wait for it to pass.
And surprise, there's the apt metaphor: I can't see what's next and I'm scared and I'm wondering what the fuck I was thinking--what the hell am I doing, following my heart on adventures all the time? I'm not a character in a book I'm an actual person--but whatever, it's too late, stopping would be death and I just have to keep going, assuming that I'm not going to die in the next few minutes and that something awesome is in store.
And there was awesomeness--baby boys and little girls, friends and their cozy homes. Everyone settled in and making families. I got to the Mountain and the topic was community. The questions were:
Who am I?
Where am I going?
Who am I going with?
I'm not sweating the first question. The second question, good Lord, and the third question I've been steady asking since I quit drinking. I've been asking it all my life, but when I quit drinking I was really, really, really asking.
No answer yet so I'll keep going and this snow will let up eventually.
Thursday, November 04, 2010
"...being patient is...breathing with all the intensity of a lover. It's being as vibrant as a leaf. The leaf is attached to the tree. It's filling with the green blood of time. It's perfoming daily the miracle of photosynthesis...in the opening we make when we stop doing the compulsive, answers are scattered like acorns. We can stoop to pick them up. That is what we mean when we say, 'Be patient.' We mean focus on the few feet fecund earth around you. We mean take the gifts strewn about your feet."
Friday, July 16, 2010
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Tuesday, January 05, 2010
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Saturday, December 12, 2009
I just realized I want to be in love. It would balance the hurt of this world, fill the space where wine once warmed me, smooth the jagged edge between receiving and deserving. Except now it's winter and everyone who has ever loved me is married or inaccessible in a way I don't understand. Somewhere in my brain space there exists a closet that generates wonderful men who have loved me and I haven't seen it in time and that closet will be empty someday, is my worry. They walk out and stand patiently and then walk on to women better suited for them. I'm not sure how much good will toward me exists in the Universe, but I tell myself it's massive. Any time theology slides into math or volume I get panicky. I'm fianlly paying attention but the closet door is closed and there are no sounds coming from inside. Chick magazine advice is just as vapid but now directed right at me. The list of words and songs and smells that make me ache with the power of all the love I'm shedding gets longer and more surprising every day until I worry I'll be permanently flushed and on the verge of tears. The only culture I've ever lived in appears to be all wrong (on this question, to me) and so I'm out in the cold, so to speak. I'll just keep riding the bus, downloading love songs, reading poetry, and drawing nonsense. The last part of my adolescence is blossoming in the cracked jar of my thirties, and what's to be done with that? On the upside my endless empathy can grow and grow as I finally get what the fuck is wrong with teenage girls, and also try to tattoo on my muscles how much it sucks to be outside in Chicago in the winter, alone.